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Finding a New Normal: Living With Eczema

Posted on July 02, 2018

Receiving an eczema diagnosis can inspire both relief and dread. It can be a relief to have a name for the misery that's become part of life. On the other hand, a diagnosis of eczema can be upsetting because it labels us with a problem for which there is no clear cure. Diagnosis is like suddenly falling off a cliff. Abruptly, the life we had before diagnosis vanishes. It’s the beginning of a new life path managing eczema.


Stages of Grief
If diagnosis is like falling off a cliff, then grappling with this new reality is like going through the stages of grief. The concept of the five stages of grief was introduced by Swiss psychiatrist Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in 1969. The stages represent difficult feelings experienced during hardships and traumatic events, such as the death of a loved one, a breakup, or confronting an addiction. Grief is experienced by people who find themselves living with chronic conditions, too.

The five stages of grief are denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. The stages rarely happen in order, and many people revisit some or all of the stages over and over after diagnosis and during flares.

Anger sets in when we acknowledge what we’ve lost – suddenly there are new realities because of eczema: missing pool parties or beach outings, worrying about medication and creams, running to endless doctor’s appointments, and losing friends because they don’t understand why we cancel plans suddenly. Some days begin with bargaining and trying to live perfectly in hopes that it goes away. The frustration and disappointment in the chronic nature of eczema can lead to depression and sadness.

Relief (The New Normal)

An official diagnosis can be the catalyst we need to move us past denial. Relief slowly begins to creep in when this new normal is shared with others. Social support, from friends and family and from fellow members on MyEczemaTeam, helps you slowly climb the staircase of grief into a more predictable plateau – the “new normal.” Forging social support from others with eczema can bring perspective and validation. Walking through life with eczema isn’t easy or what we asked for, but it makes all the difference to walk this new path with others who understand.

Have you found your new normal?

A MyEczemaTeam Member said:

Never! You are a strong person who can help others. Yes we suffer but I’m not going to let this Bitch define or control me

posted 5 months ago

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